Sunday, September 15, 2013

What is Anger

What is Anger

Emotion  is  a  property  that  everyone has. It makes people emotionally happy,
sad,  delighted,  surprised,  disappointed, and so on. Angry is one of them that
can  be  often  found  inside human, and it is usually referred to as an emotion
called  anger,  which  is not a very welcoming set of feelings and it is good to
avoid being showing your temper too frequently.

It  is  totally  normal  for a person to feel angry. With certain unhappy events
happening  or  so  around him or her, it is a form of expression showing that he
or  she  is  being  intimidated  by  unhappy  events  or  person around them. An
expression  of  anger  may  vary  depending on how serious that particular event
that caused it, and also will determine which type of anger they possesses.

Different  levels  of  anger  varies  through  the  different  levels  of events
happened.  It  can  go from very light anger such as a silence barrier, or going
to  a  heated  argument, or rage. It is a state when certain factors causes your
mind  to  give  you  signals  that you do not worth what the event is all about,
thus  giving  you  physical signs such as adrenaline rush, faster heartbeat, and
other heated up features.

Causing  anger  is not hard. A simple tick off by one of your colleagues in your
workplace  that  have influenced your hard work, or being back stabbed by one of
your  close  friends.  These are the easiest way to get the ball running in your
heart  to  be  angry.  Frustration is also another form of anger that is popular
nowadays,  which is often caused by growing pressure found in urban people where
city life is a race of work everyday.

There  are  two  main groups of anger, which has their own separate types in the
grouping.  Aggressive  anger  is  one  of  them,  often relating you to cursing,
destructing,  threats,  direct  harm,  or  others.  As the name says, aggressive
anger  usually comes after a series of unhappy events like arguments, ideas that
clashed  between two people, opinions which are not the same, and so on. It will
also  come  with  expression  filled  with  unpleasant actions or words, and may
cause physical damage to items or people.

Another group is passive anger, which appears to be called the ‘good’anger.  Why  is  it  called the good one is because that this type of anger does
not  cause  serious physical or emotional injury. To see how a passive anger is,
usually  it  is related to personal events like being left out from the group of
friends,  struggling  to  be  accepted  by  a  new  group  of  colleagues, being
complained  about a certain service in work. These are the problems and normally
it  reflects  who  you  are and it is a good chance to improve yourself based on
the passive anger you possess in you.

Although  it  is not a good thing to be angry always, it is still unavoidable in
our  daily  life.  Psychiatrists  found  out  that  it is normal to release your
stress  via  anger expression, but knowing when to do that and limiting yourself
to  what  you  do  is  a good way of making yourself comfortable without hurting
people  around.  This  is  a  good  way to manage anger if it creeps up from the
inner you again.

Keeping  yourself  angry  all  the  time is not a good thing. Learning to forget
what  has  happened  in the past will definitely help in future anger management

How To Recognize Anger Issues

How To Recognize Anger Issues

Angry,  is  a  very  normal  emotional state where every normal human being will
encounter  after  a series of unhappy events or incidents. A person will tend to
grow  angry because of a tiny little matter, or some is being accumulated inside
them  all along just to wait till a final day that they cannot hold them anymore
to release it with a big bang.

It  varies  among  people  how  often one gets angry. Those who have a harsh and
fierce  background  may find themselves stepping into the angry zone more often.
Inversely  it  takes  a  longer  time to see to what extent that a gentleman can
keep  all the unhappy events inside him, as one day at last he will release them
all in one shot just like a burst pressure cooker.

Coming  to  you  yourself  as a close friend with the angry person, it is a good
thing  if  you  know  how  to notice when is he or she going to get burst into a
fireball.  Before  knowing that he or she is out there shooting anyone he or she
sees,  you  can  already  try  to stop them early by soothing them out, relaxing
them, give advices, and a good talk with them.

Notice  the  smallest  sign  of dissatisfaction inside them. As said earlier, it
may  be  a small matter or sometimes big, but everything starts from scratch and
the  core  of  a  major  problem is usually a small matter. If you can detect it
early  before  your  close  friend starts to gather more unpleasant elements and
build  them  up  together,  tell  them  that  you saw it too, and give them some
attention  that  you  have  the same views as them. It will help them to realize
that  they  will  soon  start  to  get very angry, and that is a situation where
everyone should really avoid from.

Noticing  the  facial  expressions  of  people around you also give you clues on
whether  that  person  is  in  a  bad  mood or not. Things like a frown over the
forehead  over a long period of time, or the non reluctant working attitude with
a  facial  expression  that  will  scare most customers off. Whenever you notice
people  like  this, you will know they have something going on inside them. This
also  includes  mild  body actions like walking angrily, chucking things around,
throwing tantrum at stationeries, and so on.

Some  people  do  not express signs of anger inside them. It seems to be hard to
detect  signs  of an angry man inside him, but there are certain ways to do that
based  on  observation.  You will often see people covering their unhappy events
with  a  good smile across the face, but doing that just after a slight argument
will  keep  him  in  your  mind  that  he  is someone who can tolerate emotional
challenges.  Often  you will find traces of angry feelings when you talk to them
further  inside,  as  they will still hide them up by using a very civilized way
of communicating.

Lastly,  some  people may just get angry without any sign of early indication to
show  that they have met an unpleasant event or so. Normally this can be seen by
the person’s  background,  whether  his  or  her family is a happy family or not. Different
lifestyles also vary the possibility of a person to get angry faster.

After  recognizing  the anger that is growing in humans, it is time to learn how
to  really  curb  them  via anger management. Remember, this does not apply to a
third person only, but also to the one that gets angry fast.

Different Types of Anger

Different Types of Anger

Anger  is  a  commonly  found among the people in our daily life. It is a normal
human  reaction  to  be  frustrated,  angry,  mad, harmful, and others. Anger is
considered  a  negative  behavior  as  it  may not only harm the human and human
relationship,  but  also  causing harm to our own health too. Scientists believe
that the angrier we are the more it will take the toll on our total health.

Anger  can  be  grouped  as  two  large  groups of aggressive anger, and passive
anger.  As  the  name  indicates, aggressive anger is the one that scares people
away.  It  is  the  most  common  form  of  anger that appears in the community.
Aggressive  anger  usually  causes injuries to either the angry man or women him
or  herself,  and  also  to those who are close to them. Again, aggressive anger
can be broken into smaller types of anger.

Threats  are  one  of the common anger found in most people. It can be described
as  a  frightening  person  by  people around you. Threats can be seen easily as
long  as the angry man or women is actually acting angrily and scolding you with
signs  of  future  harming.  These  violent behaviors such as cursing, scolding,
hand  signing  or  finger  pointing, and sounding the car horn at other drivers,
are signs telling you that you are going to be threatened.

Bullying  is  also  a  form  of anger. Bullying is normally found in people with
advantage  over the one they are bullying. One who overpowers the weaker usually
causes  bullying to the weaker side. Instances are like senior students bullying
junior  students;  angry  husband  bullies wife; road bullies. Signs of bullying
often show physical pushing, hitting, and shoving towards the weaker party.

Destructive  behavior is one of the most aggressive of all. Often causes serious
damage  to  objects,  animals,  and  even  human.  Destructive behavior is often
related  with  bullying.  Those  who  have power do the damage after a series of
aggressive  and  insulting  action.  Kicking  the thrash bin, slapping the wife,
throwing an empty beer can around– these are signs of destructive manner.

Passive  anger  is  another  group  of  anger,  which  is  a  total  opposite of
aggressive  anger.  Secretive behavior is a silent war between people with views
that  are not coming to a good end. Doing things like keeping yourself away from
the  people  that  you dislike, avoid talking or eye contact with them, gossips,
backstab, and so on. These does heavy damage to a person’s  emotion  and  that is very unpleasant if that person is a close friend with a
good bond between the two of them.

Hatred  can  be found in a lot of people nowadays. Commonly found in people that
live  in  an environment that is being looked down, insulted, unfairness, and so
on.  This  causes  them  to  create  an  image in their mind that says he or she
deserves  better  and  it should not be like what it should be in reality. After
effects  often  comes  with vandalism, destruction, riot, rallying, hurting, and
even harming people.

These  are  the  types  of  anger that are usually found in humans. Curbing them
will  actually  help  soothes  a  temper  down, where finding a way to curb them
perfectly  is  a  great  effort  and  it depends on individuals on how to manage
anger properly.

Anger Management

Anger  is unavoidable among us. True enough, but if one is not feeling any anger
towards  unpleasant  experience  or events, then the person is not considered as
normal  human  being. Emotionally everyone should feel the adrenaline rush alike
sensation  whenever  they  are intimidated, insulted, scolded, feeling down, and
bad  mood.  To show your anger is an easy task, as most of us will automatically
do that before knowing it.

Showing  your  angry  side is easy as it is almost done automatically, how about
hiding  it? It is not that easy, unless you really know how to manage your anger
properly.  It  is not an easy task for everyone. Some people may find it hard at
the  beginning  but  manage to cope it later in their life; some find it easy at
first  as  they  are  good  in  toleration and perseverance. There are also some
cases  where  people  cannot  even manage their anger at all, and ended up being
sent  to  counselor,  or  locked  up  after  doing  something  stupid out in the

So,  how  do  we  manage  our  temper?  Anger  management  is all about relaxing
yourself.  There  are  many  ways  in diverting your angry mood away. Using ways
that  are  proven  by  doctors  or  psychiatrists  actually  helps you curb your
current  anger  issues,  and  also  towards  those  that  may happen in the near

Learn  how  to deal with your anger is a core subject to curbing your angry mood
down.  Anger  can  be  suppressed,  converted  or  diverted  to  other  forms of
energies.  Knowing  your limit is important in order to gauge your anger limits.
Some  people  did  it the wrong way of mild relaxation which appears to be wrong
because  he  or  she  has  a  very angry side when they are stepped on the tail.
Express  your  anger  in a low or moderate level is another good way to suppress
your  anger  level;  at  least  you  are not firing all your anger away which is
quite bombastic compared to others.

Terminating  the  anger  that has been together with you for long is not an easy
task   though.  For  instance,  Madam  Smith  has  her  experience  of  being  a
disciplinary  teacher  in  her local high school. Everyday she carries a face of
steel  and her job is to scold those kids who do not do good behaving themselves
in  the  school. Coming to the end of the day, she also disciplines her children
the  same way she teaches her students in school. This effort is hard to curb in
one  shot,  but  can  be done correctly if she is taught to think in a different
perspective,  reverse  thinking,  and learning to be different from what she was

Relaxation  is  one  of  the most effective anger management techniques. This is
not  only  a  way  to  enjoy  a  nice  pampering  treat to yourself, but also an
effective  way  to  treat  your short and minor anger- temporarily. Relaxing can
help  to  curb  anger  but  not for the serious types. Light matters or problems
within  you  for  instance  being neglected by your teacher for not viewing your
work.  You may have this passive anger inside you that puts yourself down, but a
good  treat with something that you like to do, like a trip off to the beach for
the sun tan you wished, is a good way to make you forget what has happened.

They  say  better  prevent  than cure. This is a good quote by doctors, and also
psychiatrists.  Preventing  yourself  from getting angry is a good way to manage
your  volcanic  action  of  anger  bursting  out  inside  of  you.  Learn better
communication  skills will keep you out of trouble whenever someone or something
sparks  your little devil inside you. Learn how to think before reacting is good
enough  to avoid bursting yourself uncontrollably, as it keeps yourself cool and
steady  to  think  of  a  way  to  solve  the  problem  in a more civilized way,
protecting your overall image too.

Last  but  not least, always have it in mind that anger within you is not a good
thing  to  have. Making yourself angry in the public will just scare people away
from  approaching  you,  losing  friends, family members, or employers. Learn to
tolerate  small events with a big heart, keeping the annoying and ugly angry you
out of the picture.

Anger – Does Counseling Helps?

It  takes  some  time for someone who gets angry frequently to finally get their
senses  up and start visiting any help they can get. A good way to start off may
be  a  local  doctor,  but  in  most  of  the time the doctor will send you to a
counselor to help you in controlling your temper.

Counselors  appear to be someone whom is experienced in dealing problems related
to  human  relationships. Anger certainly falls in this category as it is a very
common  human  interaction  problem.  It  may be happening among people, or even
sometimes alone, which we will talk about it later in this topic.

In  fact,  counseling  is  just like psychotherapy. Without the fancy scientific
methods,  apparatus,  theories,  and  logics, counselors carry out their form of
counseling  efforts  in a simpler manner using daily objects in life. Counselors
know  what  a  person  actually  wants as they have the sufficient experience to
identify what is actually happening inside a person.

Anger  management  can  actually  seek  help  from  counselors. They are usually
psychologist  or  experienced  counselors  that  are good in dealing with mental
health.  It does help angry people to get a place where their anger is expressed
towards  someone  who  cares  and  understands. This way, only can they help the
person to suppress their anger followed by methods like self control.

A  patient  may  sometime  find it hard to look for people who recognize them in
the  beginning.  Teenagers who suffer from passive anger usually keep themselves
away  from  the  crowd, making them vulnerable to bad influences in the streets.
There  are  so  many  young  kids  showing signs of passive anger towards family
unfairness,  school  bullies,  losing our in grades, lack of self confidence and
so on.

Having  a  school counselor may help to curb this problem, for instance. Instead
of  having  them  to visit the counselor themselves, have the counselor approach
them  like joining their daily activities. This way teenagers may find it easier
to  express what they feel as they know that the school counselor can be trusted
but not the gangsters outside the school.

Working  adults  are  also  encouraged  to visit a counselor whenever there is a
problem  that cannot be solved. Instead of keeping it inside your mind, share it
with  a  psychologist,  as he or she might help you think of a very constructive
way  of  solving  it.  Counselors  are  known  to  provide education on personal
development,  and  ideas like self controlling methods, problem solving methods,
anger  management methods, are just a small part of their knowledge in improving
a person’s life.

Coming  to  the end, whenever you encounter a problem which cannot be solved, it
is  still  a  good idea to find a counselor to attend a short counseling course.
It  may  be a single session with two individuals, or even a group session where
you  can  meet  a  whole  lot  more of people who are having the same trouble as
yours.  Just  remember,  your have your anger problem, others have them too; and
while they can curb them by suppressing them, why not you?